Monday 6 February 2017

Goodbye January

The new year has come and gone without a blog from me.  I have certainly thought about it but my fingers haven't hit the keyboard for awhile.
Christmas was a lovely celebration.  Though it was the first without Mum.  My younger sister invited us to her house and we delighted in celebrating with her and her family.  It was a lovely day.
Merv's Huntington's has progressed. Though his injury from his fall in October has healed he is still unable to walk without assistance and only in the house. Outside he uses his wheelchair.  His speech is difficult to decipher at times and his response is very slow.  I have to remember it is his disease which slows him and he's not just being a grouchy old man! Yes it's hard to live through it, knowing what we had and being aware of what is to come.
That brings us to the house.  I had decided over twelve months ago to do up the house and sell it while keeping in mind when Merv goes into residential care full time I am unable to sell the house without giving fifty percent to the care home.  If I stay in the family home I don't need to do that.  Oh the laws of the land and behaving shrewdly!
At the end of January this year we received a very good offer on our home of thirty one years.  I had  help from family, friends and tradies renovating and bringing our much loved home to what I could foresee as a healthy selling standard.
Today we viewed and put forth an offer on a house an hour away from our current house.  It is more than adequate and suits our budget while giving us a 'sea change.'
It has enough room for Merv, myself plus daughter Mel who is coming to live with us.  It was super cheap as real estate prices have plummeted in the area.  It is definitely livable but needs work to make it into a home.  Oh, yes another long term project.
I don't sleep well at night.  My nights are filled with what is happening.  Selling and buying houses but mostly of Merv's wellbeing.  When I wake at night I check on him and ask him if he wants to go to the toilet.  Many times he does.  I will sleep afterwards depending on the time.  I dread the thought of placing him in care permanently.  It fills me with dread, but it is something I need to do not just for me but for him also.  There will come a time when I will not be able to give him the care he deserves and requires.
At this time we will move to our new house and see how we go.


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